“There is no fear in love; but perfect love casts out fear, because fear involves torment. But he who fears has not been made perfect in love.” 1 Jon 4:18 (NKJV)
The majority of insecurities that we deal with stem from feelings of fear. Fear that we won’t measure up, aren’t capable enough, are unworthy, won’t be accepted, won’t fit in, or can’t change or adapt.
At the very core of every insecurity is an inaccurate and poor self image…a lack of confidence in oneself, others and/or the world around them.
When you’re insecure, you tend to allow your insecurities to speak louder to your heart than the truth.
Unfortunately, insecurities give you such a skewed view of yourself that even when you hear the truth, you have a hard time believing it. Breaking the insecurity tie that binds you is almost impossible.
But with Christ…nothing is impossible…including pushing past your insecurities.
Insecurities prevent success because the insecure can never see themselves as successful. And even if they could get a glimpse of a successful version of themselves, their insecurities would prevent them from taking the necessary steps to get there.
Insecurities are notorious for ruining relationships, impeding education, destroying dreams, hindering happiness, creating jealous people and people pleasers, magnifying the giftedness of others while minimizing the giftedness of the insecure. They are game stoppers and alter the God-given destinies of each of us who are hindered by them.
When we struggle with insecurities we allow the pain of our past to paralyze us and we allow the fear of the future to stop us dead in our tracks. We underestimate ourselves and more importantly, we underestimate what God wants to do in our lives and that means we ultimately underestimate God.
Like most internal issues we deal with, the battle begins and ends in the mind.
The Bible tells us that…
“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” Proverbs 23:7
So the problem is that you and I have been inundated with some stinkin’ thinkin’ and we need to learn to readjust the pattern of our thoughts and realign them with the Word of God.
Think for a minute about some of those we are familiar with and some who have gone before us.
What if Elisabeth Elliot would have allowed her insecurities to keep her from going to Ecuador?
What if Beth Moore would have allowed her insecurities to prevent her from standing in front of a small class years ago and teaching her first Bible study?
What if David Livingstone would have allowed his insecurities to stop him from standing firm about reaching Africa for Christ?
What if David’s insecurities would have prevented him from accepting the role as king?
What if Esther’s insecurities would have stopped her from entering the contest to become queen?
You get the picture, right? What if those who have gone before us would have allowed their insecurities to prevent them from fulfilling their God-given destinies?
What if you are doing that very thing right now?
Tomorrow, we are going to look at how to really begin going to war against our insecurities and not just learning how to deal with them, but how to defeat them.
But for today, take a few minutes and write down some of the things your insecurities have prevented you from doing or the damage they have done. Be willing to take a good hard look at what your insecurities are and what the have kept you from or how they have ruined or hurt some of the relationships you have had.
It’s time to go to war and fight for all God wants you to be, sweet friend.